This happened approximately four years before, while I was doing my graduation. In those days I was a strong personality who always used to raise voice against the violence towards women. I used to leave college at sharp 4:30pm. But that day I was little bit early than the usual leaving time. I got into a bus which was very crowded with the students studying in nearby schools. I noticed a cute nice girl who seemed to be very nervous. I got a seat, but she was standing towards my left very uncomfortably. I offered to catch her bag and she too agreed with great pleasure. But later I again felt that she was still uncomfortable. Her face resembled as if she is tolerating something that is very hard to do. Suddenly I noticed that the conductor was standing just beside her. He continued to remain there as if it’s very difficult to move from there. I understood that something somewhere is wrong between them. Then I started observing both of them secretly. At last I found out the shocking truth that the conductor was sexually irritating that high school girl. The important thing was that no one could identify this seeing their face, and this fellow very clearly knows that none will notice this because of such a big rush. My temper reached its height and I raised my voice loudly against him. He not only rejected but also started arguing. The men folk sitting behind get aroused and made voice against him. All of a sudden that happened-the victim, the 13 or 14 year high school girl, she said to the crowd that I’m lying and the conductor is innocent. Even the middle aged woman who sit near me and observed this also didn’t say a word against them. I felt ashamed of myself and also about our people. Due to this I get down in the next stop. Cried a lot and took a decision that I will never get into others business. Let it be a chapter to each and every social being who read this.
22 March 2008, 1:33 PM
Suman K Sharmas wrote:
One odd incident should not put you off your social obligation. The trick in the circumstances such as you have described is to measure the situation and react appropriately. With experience you will learn. Reply to this
26 March 2008, 2:59 PM
Jyothy wrote:
Thanks.you are correct,we must never put off from our social obligation.But my parents scolded me a lot for this.Thans for your kind consideration Reply to this
22 March 2008, 2:38 PMChhaya wrote:
Comeon!! we are proud of you! we must raise our voice, even if we have to pay a price for it. thse molesters shud be hanged. Happy Holi to u dear... Reply to this
24 March 2008, 3:23 PM
Neha Gupta wrote:
Good blog, Jyothy! I sort of disagree with everyone here. It is worthless to raise your voice against such martyrs who would happily tolearte everything so humbly. But yes, if someone is all alone fighting such a thing, then we can ceratinly support her. Reply to this
25 March 2008, 9:02 AM
Suneetha wrote:
Jyothy, I know exactly what you mean by this, I have gone through this...remember the PE Usha incident? she even lost her marriage to her protest against harrrassment...I remember an incident where I confronted a man who was harrassing a colleague of mine in a crowded bus ( she was with me all right, thank god) and this guy turned round and made it sound like I was propositioning him...it was late evening and the crowd not office-going types...so it was embarrassing, but we immediately asked the bus conductor to take the bus to a police station...It was a bluff that carried off...the man left the bus immediately...fortunately the bus staff were regulars who knew us so there wasnt any problem after that...I suggest you dont give up your spirit...this is exactly what these criminals are trying to scare us into doing...we cant make darkness by shutting our eyes... Reply to this
27 March 2008, 12:27 AM
Kalyani S. wrote:
I can imagine your embarrassment! But at least through guilt that girl would have learnt a lesson. Wonder why some girls are meek to this extent. It only makes people take advantage of them! Reply to this
One odd incident should not put you off your social obligation. The trick in the circumstances such as you have described is to measure the situation and react appropriately. With experience you will learn.
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Thanks.you are correct,we must never put off from our social obligation.But my parents scolded me a lot for this.Thans for your kind consideration
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Comeon!! we are proud of you! we must raise our voice, even if we have to pay a price for it. thse molesters shud be hanged.
Happy Holi to u dear...
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Thanks a lot.
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I know such incidents are discouraging, but you must always do what is right by you.
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Thanks a lot.
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Good blog, Jyothy! I sort of disagree with everyone here. It is worthless to raise your voice against such martyrs who would happily tolearte everything so humbly. But yes, if someone is all alone fighting such a thing, then we can ceratinly support her.
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Thanks a lot.....
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Jyothy, I know exactly what you mean by this, I have gone through this...remember the PE Usha incident? she even lost her marriage to her protest against harrrassment...I remember an incident where I confronted a man who was harrassing a colleague of mine in a crowded bus ( she was with me all right, thank god) and this guy turned round and made it sound like I was propositioning him...it was late evening and the crowd not office-going types...so it was embarrassing, but we immediately asked the bus conductor to take the bus to a police station...It was a bluff that carried off...the man left the bus immediately...fortunately the bus staff were regulars who knew us so there wasnt any problem after that...I suggest you dont give up your spirit...this is exactly what these criminals are trying to scare us into doing...we cant make darkness by shutting our eyes...
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Dear suneetha chechi...
A lot of thanks for ur encouragement.
with love jyothy
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I can imagine your embarrassment! But at least through guilt that girl would have learnt a lesson. Wonder why some girls are meek to this extent. It only makes people take advantage of them!
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Thanks Kalyani.
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