In today’s society there's a growing trend among men and women to have multiple relationships. It’s a trend that the society slowly seems to be in a process of accepting the same. Looking at the past—moi realizes that men and women had some kind of formal commitments to each other, whereas today—the society embodies an attraction for risk, be it with money or love.
The society is used to the fact that if a man dates two or more women at a time he is considered morally reprehensible – everybody considering him to be a stud – which is very much acceptable. Hmm…maybe moi is exaggerating.
Men are studs!
Moi did call this a cool statement – what do you think—is moi right in thinking in these terms? When the society labels a man as a stud –which we have already said is acceptable then can we call a woman a stud or filly/mare – sure does sound weird. Doesn’t it?
Men will be men—isn’t it? Men love to gloat about the various relationships that they have had. In reality or otherwise! Moi believes most men love weaving tall stories to whoever cares to lend them their ears. Biting ears with their weird sense of fantasy stories probably boosts their estrogen levels. The point here is, the more women that a man has been with – he feels his manly prowess have been achieved. Men just like college boys weave these stories and the number of sizzling affairs (all in his mind) that he has had. Well the authenticity of these affairs remains to be seen. Men love gloating about every woman that they have been with, not really sure how many they must have been with in reality — yet the fact is that they love to reveal their skeletons that they have been with such and such woman. No doubt these women obviously happen to be the most beautiful, desirable, and sexy and the most sought women.
What happens if a woman dates more than one man at a time?
Hmm….a lot of names surfacing isn’t it?
To start with a vixen, scheming female, ready to go to any extend to get what she wants and so on.
Is this justified –that we have a different set of rules for men and entirely a different set of rules applicable to women. That is if a man goes out with many women ---he is a stud and if a female sees more than one man –she is considered to be a b****!!
Not done –na?
Well folks—moi is waiting to know your views on this. J
Oh yes, Jess, that's the way it's always been - two sets of rules in every sphere of life.
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Double standards, what else
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Very conviniently,the behavioural scientists have come up with a theory that 'Man is multigamous by nature' whereas a woman is not.And hence all the censure when she goes against nature(!)
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Infidelity is unacceptable, Jess. However, as you've pointed out, our hypocritical society has a different set of rules for men and for women. Really really SAD!
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Not fair Jessie, but that's the way it's been since I can remember. Hypocrisy, double standards all the way. I'd like to make an observation here...I've found more women guilty of coining up epithets for the liberal members of their gender. Why must women cater to the hypocrisy?
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A very good question Joy. Why should the women cater to hypocrisy. Does she want to cater to this hypocrisy--it is like women seriously want to. Why don't women take a stand in saying equal rules/laws applicable to both the sexes. We just can't have one set of rules applicable to men and another set of rules applicable to women--especially in issues such as this.
As pointed out--women love gossiping, no doubt what the topic is--we are capable of building a mountain out of a mole! No wonder then we women themselves ask for problems and later cry foul!
What do you think?
Rgds Jess
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You've hit the proverbial nail on the head Jessie. I wonder if things will change...one can only hope.
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Even with Women's Bill getting through the Parliament --things will never change--simply because we as women don't take to changes easily nor are we ready to accept the changes that seep into the society, which is actually very much needed. Once the fairer gender is really ready to move on--only then things can change, no doubt things have changed to a vast extend--but the thinking remains the same. Unless the thought process changes--nothing can be done.
Rgds Jess
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Dear Jess, this is a reality we have to live with. Double standards seems hard to destroy especially because we women don't always take the initiative to do so.
So, complaining will not do unless we women take a stand and abstain from indulging in such things ourselves.
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