Each of us loves the child within each of us, we love being children, and no matter how much we may advance in years chronologically we will always be children/kids to our parents.  Hey, we might rule the board rooms, manage offices, have loads of people reporting to us—yet back home --- to parents we are still children, no matter what--- each of us just loves to pamper the child within each of us, isn’t it?     

Each of love to hold on to the parent aprons and keep going in life—knowing that when we turn around our parents are watching over us with all their love and care.  Making sure that the paths that we are treading are the safe paths and paths already trodden-making sure no dangers are lurking around. The fond memories that each of holds is a treasure—am sure most hold dear to us. Allowing us to grow and letting go –am is sure quite for parents. Their little ones have all of a sudden –grown up and are preparing for take off.  Understandable, parents hold the fear whether their child is going to be alright all by herself/himself—when facing the huge world that awaits to engulf them in its harsh and cruel tangles.  Every parent no doubt has tons of fear bottled up within them, and many a times parents become a stumbling block to the very child that they profess to love and nurture. 

How—one may ask? 

Simple, by still holding onto the grown child! Refusing to let go off the child, treating an adult as a child.  What good is it? You neither let go nor do you allow your child to grow. As much as the child might want to let go off the hackles that the parents.  A time comes when one needs to let go.  As parents one has got to let go and allow the child to spread out his wings and soar in the open skies.  The more you allow your child to depend you, children just sit back and take advantage of your love for them, manipulating the parents to such an extend that instead making your child to be a winner –you turn them into couch potatoes!  It’s always good to allow young adults walk on their, encouraging them that they can always depend on you but at the same time they need to be aware that they as young adults are responsible for themselves.  Teaching a child to be responsible for himself is very important as it builds their self confidence, it is this self confidence that will take the child a long way in life.  It’s better to allow them to face difficult situations on their own. So, that even when you as a parent aren’t around –they can watch for themselves. 

As parents –you should encourage children to grow up—am talking about your adult kids! The other day, a 23+ candidate walked in for an interview in my block—accompanied none other than her father.  The interview was taking place in broad daylight, in a corporate office –where tons of people are walking around. When questioned as to why the father was accompanying her, she said that wherever she went –she was always accompanied by either of the parent.  Hmm…understandable the parental concern, but if one doesn’t let go—them how could the child learn to handle adversities in life.   By holding on the child—the parents had become stumbling block to the success that lay ahead in life for their child, they were delaying the success of their child by trying too hard to rescue and protect them from the real world.  Rescuing your child when they are 3 or 4 is fine not when they turn 23!  It’s time to let go and allow the child to grow up. Many youngsters, educated, holding degrees—fall flat simply because they are afraid to do anything positive in their lives, they are afraid to grow up and move out to find their place in the ‘real world’.